Workplace Vulnerability

Are women vulnerable in the workplace?… harassment is defined as unwanted touching or unwanted attention of any kind. Many women ignore this topic but go through it on a daily basis. Some cases are less severe than others. Some men find a woman attractive and they go into territorial mode and feel like she is all his. They don’t even let the woman decide if she is willing to choose him or someone else. In the workplace there are women who flirt and there are women who don’t care for any kind of attention. They are quite and make sure they put in a days worth of work. There is nothing wrong with holding a conversation with someone you are comfortable with. 

But what if you’re not comfortable with the person who is constantly trying to approach. It’s a gutsy feeling or a “OMG here he comes again!” type of thought in your mind. It just leaves you wondering why does he keep trying so hard. I’ve come to the conclusion that with most men it’s a game. They love the cat and mouse game but everyone isn’t playing. They can’t figure out why this woman won’t talk to them or give them any kind of attention. It’s because she is not feeling him for whatever reason. It could be his style, his vibe, his speech, or the way he carries himself. Those are reasons a woman may reject a man or vice versa. 

My theory is at work I want to be somewhat professional and congenial. I can’t just tell this person to bug off or leave me alone. I definitely want him to understand that I’m not interested and there’s nothing he can say or do to make me want him. Most people go through this a few times in their lives. Rejection is not easy to take but it a lesson to learn. Everybody doesn’t vibe well together so find someone you vibe with and stick with them. 

Women are more likely to be taken advantage of in the workplace. The unnecessary brushing up against her: the I’m going to walk in front of her so she notices me move; the I’m going to give her the look; and there’s the stare down. All of these are aggressive behaviors that push women away. It’s so easy to touch a women anywhere and then pass it off as an accident. Most women are ashamed to speak out about this because of the opinions of others. It is also embarrassing and self shaming for the woman. It is up to each individual to always be aware of their surroundings and conscious of whose getting physically close. I am glad the “Me Too’ movement has started because women in every walk of life has experienced some form of harassment.